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AD/PR Sample | Trying Gluten Free & Vegan Products From Incredible Bakery Company


When The Incredible Bakery Company contacted me and asked if I'd like to review some of their products, I jumped at the chance. I found out a few years ago that I have a fair few food intolerances, and one of them is gluten. It's been hard to find gluten-free bakery products that I like and it's only been in recent years that supermarkets have started to make an effort to provide these products to people. I thought it was great that I have been given the chance to review some free-from items and I am so happy to have been introduced to this lovely company. The Incredible Bakery Company is an award-winning bakery that wants to "help everyone to lead an allergen friendly life through a better diet - without compromising on taste". The difference with this bakery is that they are catered to multiple dietary requirements, as all of their products are; gluten, dairy, egg and soya free. Another great bonus is that they are vegan and coeliac friendly. The bakery is based in Warkton, Northamptonshire where you can pick up your orders if you are local, or if you're not in the area they deliver to all UK businesses and homes. They offer a range of products, both sweet and savoury. I'm glad the products are vegan-friendly too, as I'm a vegetarian who is starting to cut out some foods to lower my impact on the environment.



My favourite product I received had to be the Onion Focaccia (£3.75) which was a 280g tray that was so tasty. It was a lovely fresh and soft texture with an amazing flavour which made it so moreish. It had a good level of moisture throughout and was topped with finely sliced onion which gave it that great taste. The tray would be ideal to use as part of a sharing platter if you were hosting or even one to just nipple on over the course of a few days. I'd buy this again in a heartbeat as the caramalised onion was such a delicious flavour and has to be one of the best things I've ever eaten, and it has the bonus of being gluten-free and vegan.



The second item I received was the Gluten-Free Oat Loaf (£3.90) which is designed to taste like a wheat loaf. This was a family-sized loaf that kept us going for a good few days. It was nice as both bread for sandwiches and worked well being toasted also. I was pleasantly surprised how soft and fresh the bread was, as gluten-free bread from other companies/brands I've tried tended to be quite dry. The loaf still managed to maintain a good crisp crust to it, with the oats that topped the loaf gave a nice flavour and texture. It was a nice change to have a fresh bakery loaf that I wouldn't have known was gluten-free which shows they have really put the effort in to make a good product. I've really missed loaves that are close to being freshly baked and this was a treat.


Another product I've been trying out is the Flat Bread Wrap (pack of 4) (£4.00) which can be used for multiple different things like fajitas or pizzas, or simply just wraps. The wraps were so soft and really tasty and fresh to eat just as they come, or heated in your oven or toaster for a warmer snack. I also decided to try out using one as a pizza base, with just some tomato puree and cheese on top. I stuck it under the grill for a few minutes to melt the cheese and crisp up some of the flatbread so that it still had a nice soft base. Alternatively, you could pop it in the oven for a little longer to get a crispier base also depending on your preference. I also received the Submarine Roll (pack of 4) (£3.00). These were good-sized rolls that my partner particularly enjoyed using for a sandwich for his lunch. They were fresh inside with a good crusty outer which would also make them great for dipping in soup - I don't like eating soup unless I can enjoy it with some good crusty bread. I could see these being perfect for a BBQ also for those wanting a home for their hot dog. 


The last item I received was 2 of the Brazilian Carrot Cake slice (£1.30). It was a generous sized slice perfect as a sweet treat. My partner loves carrot cake so was excited when this turned up. He liked the spongey and moist texture of the cake and the flavour packed within and the melted chocolate chips topping the cake off nicely. 

I have been really happy with the products I received from the Incredible Bakery Company, all of which were fresh, tasty and a welcome change to some of the other gluten-free brands I've had in the past. There is a good selection of products available at a reasonable price, with UK wide delivery available making it accessible wherever you are located. They sell multiple brands on the website too, like the Gluten-Free Pie Company which I really need to try out in the future. If you need gluten-free or vegan products, or even if you don't have a dietary requirement, I would definitely recommend checking out what they have to offer and you won't be disappointed.

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AD/Gifted | Daisy London Jewellery Review


Daisy London is a jewellery brand from the UK that create pieces that they feel are missing from jewellery collections. They launched in 2009 on Portobello Road with the name Daisy London; inspired by wildflowers and has grown from a small business to a cult favourite. I love how they've blended together bohemian style with contemporary fashion. It's a brand made by women and they want the brand to represent us all. All their jewellery comes with a 6-month warranty, so you know you're in good hands. The rings I've kindly been gifted have come from the Esteé Lalonde collection which is their third collaboration now, as I just couldn't resist the theme. When I was watching YouTube a lot I used to watch Esteé's vlogs, so it's nice to see she is doing well and helping to make beautiful jewellery. On the Daisy London website there is a page on how to keep your jewellery clean and beautiful which is fabulous as this is often not provided.



The first ring I chose from the Esteé Lalonde collection is the Goddess Hexagonal Ring (18Ct Gold Plate) £49 which is a cocktail ring with 18ct gold-plated silver with a carved border and the lunar goddess symbol within the hexagon. It has a slim band which is perfect for me. If you know me, I love all things celestial, so this ring was the first one I chose. If you're more into different colours, it also comes in silver. The Goddess collection includes bracelets, earrings and necklaces too, which I'm so tempted by! I have to remind myself I am saving for my wedding. I just love the full moon and crescent moon design with what I see as like a moonbeam coming from behind them. For some reason I really love hexagons too, I'm even fitting bathroom tiles in this shape. It just looks different and that's exactly what I love about Daisy London's jewellery. These rings are a fusion of vintage and modern style which is right up my street, and I'm sure it's up your street too.




The second ring I chose was the Estée Lalonde Mini Sunburst Shield Ring (18Ct Gold Plate) £49. It reminds me of the 1920's Art Deco style which I adore. If you're into subtle designs with a bit of a twist, this is the ring for you. According to Daisy London, it symbolises positivity and happiness, with the sunburst engraved within the shield. Along with the Goddess Collection, the Sunburst Collection contains necklace, bracelets and earrings too which are also available in silver. The rings go from size XS to XL which covers UK sizes from J to S. I am usually an O (if you've seen my engagement ring its Q 1/4 as it's American and it's too big now!) so I chose an L to make sure it was the right fit and wasn't too tight. Daisy London has a sizing guide and also teach you how to measure your fingers to find out what size you are. If you wear rings on multiple fingers this comes in handy!



The products in the Esteé Lalonde collection range from £19 to £408, with the higher prices for the necklace layering sets. If you're not looking for layering sets, the prices go up to £179 which I think is great for a jewellery company in the UK. There are pieces that are affordable for everyone. They are also working hard to be as sustainable as they can, which is a must-have in this current climate. Daisy London's jewellery is made from 100% recycled silver and packaging is made from FSC approved paper. They are continuing to work with factories to limit the amount of plastic used whilst maintaining their high standard of hygiene. Daisy London is working with the Forest Stewardship Council (FSC) to minimise the impact of their jewellery on the environment. There is a whole page on sustainability here, where you can read their environmental statement. I'm really thankful for Daisy London for working with me, and I hope more people can support their business, given the impact of the last year or so. I'm definitely going to be checking them out when it comes to gift-giving over the next year, as I have a lot of people who like jewellery who might be interested in their lovely products. I hope in the future Daisy London will consider creating rose gold jewellery too, now that would be beautiful!


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Myths and Assumptions That Non-Disabled People Make About Disabilities

A man called Andy who is wearing a sky blue parka and dark jeans is pushing his partner Laura (me) in a wheelchair. Laura is covered by Andy as the perspective is from behind him.We are in Sefton Park in Liverpool in the midst of autumn. There are autumn leaves on the paths and green space. It is a lovely day.



A disability in the UK is defined by the Equality Act 2010 as a physical or mental impairment that has a substantial and long-lasting effect on a person's regular carrying out of day-to-day activities. This means disabilities can include visible disabilities but also invisible ones such as Autism, chronic illnesses like Fibromyalgia, mental health conditions, and vision impairments. Some disabled people will have multiple disabilities both visible and invisible. There is a lot of stigma that comes with having a disability, such as stereotypes applied to us, people feeling like they cannot communicate with us, being left out and so much more. We are often discriminated against, whether that being in the form of ableist language and insults, businesses not providing access, not being believed in medical settings, and being left out of things like marketing campaigns. Misconceptions and myths need debunking, so I thought I'd write this post with a lot of them. If there is more to talk about I'll write a future post too.


Not that many people are disabled anyway so why listen to articles like this one
One in five people in the UK have a disability or chronic illness. One in five. 20%. Scope breaks this down into a few categories, including 8% of children are disabled, 19% of working adults are disabled and 46% of pension age adults have a disability.


Person-first language is more polite and every disabled person prefers it
From the disabled people I've had the pleasure to meet online, and my own personal preference, the consensus is that identity-first language is better. I am not a person with a disability, I am a disabled person. From what I've seen online, identity-first language is more common in the UK, with person-first language used more in the US. However, if you go on Twitter and speak to disabled people, a huge chunk of them will tell you they prefer identity-first language. I think sometimes it depends on the disability or chronic illness too. The preference depends on the setting, as workplaces and businesses may often use person-first language as they see it as more polite. Another example of language choice is not referring to people as 'suffering from X' or 'bound to X'.


It doesn't cost disabled people more to live
It actually does, by a lot. Scope in 2019 found that it costs on average an extra £583 a month to have a disability. This includes things like paying for mobility aids, parking for hospital appointments, paying for physiotherapy, items in the house that make it more accessible for you. 20% of disabled people face costs of over £1000 a month. Considering a lot of disabled people have no welfare money coming in such as Universal Credit or Personal Independence Payments, this is a lot of money to conjure up. In my case, I have no welfare money and rely on my partner working in his full-time job. He gets no money for being my carer when he isn't at work. We have to miss out on so many things that others take for granted, such as going on holiday, eating out at restaurants, buying a new car (that would fit my wheelchair and aids in a lot better!), buying a bigger house, buying designer clothes and so much more. Even a good sofa is a no-go for us. We have an IKEA sofa which has already had to be replaced on warranty, we cannot afford to get a fancy sofa even from places like DFS. The pressure of trying to pay for bills and mobility aids is another reason why disabled people struggle to get into the workforce too.


It's okay to offer us solutions/cures
I don't think under any circumstances it's okay for someone to try to 'fix' a disabled person. I think there can be things that can genuinely help symptoms for people, but on the whole, it's better to ask a person first. This could be as simple as 'is it okay for me to offer a suggestion that has helped me before?'. From experience, a lot of these cures/solutions/suggestions seem to be offered in a more passive-aggressive tone without genuine concern for the disabled person. Things that have been suggested to me before comprise of: trying yoga, trying pilates, walking, swimming, trying detox teas, getting a professional massage often (like I'm made of money), eating kale, sleeping better (like I haven't tried), essential oils, meditating and mindfulness, trying not to think about pain, drinking smoothies, resting and more. And people wonder why the cost of living is higher for disabled people if they're paying for a lot of these things and mobility aids and prescriptions. Needing to 'fix' us implies that you think we're broken. Everyday Feminism explains it perfectly; 'cure-focused narratives have deep roots in systemic ableism'. Treatments for us is a different matter, which can be things like physiotherapy, hydrotherapy, medications, surgeries and mobility aids. Emily Ladau puts it perfectly 'Those who are fighting hard to eliminate genetic disability should be fighting harder to change the world".


It's okay to park in a disabled bay if you don't have a blue badge, even if for a few minutes
I can give a very quick answer to this and that is a huge no. Proportionately there are way more other parking spaces than there are disabled bays, so just use one of those. I don't even have a blue badge yet and this upsets me. It is rude and shows you don't care about disabled people.


Non-disabled people can't do anything to help disabled people
Non-disabled can help us remove barriers that we face in a mostly-abled world. This can be through advocating for us for things like accessible tickets for concerts, pointing out ableism in public, supporting us to make changes online through things like petitions. By not using our aids like parking spaces and disabled toilets if you aren't disabled/chronically ill. Speaking out against ableist language from people, even if they're justifying it as a 'joke'. Even just opening a door and holding it for us. There are so many things you can do to help us that make take the smallest amount of time but could change a lot for us.


Wheelchairs are for paralysed people only
In the UK, out of the 1.2 million wheelchair users, approximately 33% of them are ambulatory wheelchair users and 8% of disabled people use a wheelchair at all. Wheelchairs offer independence to those who struggle to walk, struggle to stand up, are in pain when not using them or just do not have the energy to not be in a wheelchair. A lot of people get comments like 'someone else could be using that wheelchair and you're taking it away from them' which is ridiculous as some people like me own their own wheelchair (mine was donated to me). I think from my point of view, the funniest thing from me using my wheelchair was when I wiggled my legs and a lady looked at me in horror, like she assumed I was paralysed. Another comment is about being too young to be in a wheelchair. How do those people explain disabled children needing wheelchairs or elderly people who are fit and well who doesn't need them? There isn't an age limit on disabilities. I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome which means my joints can dislocate and I can faint from standing. In what world do people think it's safe for me to be walking around a shop or a park if I don't feel able to? It puts me at risk of injury.


We all have really strong painkillers like opiates to manage pain
You may actually be surprised to hear that even the strongest painkillers sometimes do not take all of the pain away. Some people are not on any painkillers as everything they've tried doesn't work. Even if people are on strong painkillers, so what? A lot of chronic illness and disabled people struggle even getting some form of pain management as they're wrongly mislabelled as 'drug seekers'. Medication is a personal and complex topic and probably shouldn't be asked about unless you are that person's GP.


Disabled people can't/shouldn't have children
This is a classic example of Eugenics. This is defined as 'practices that aim to improve the genetic quality of the human population' and was used by the Nazis in the 1930's and 1940's for example. In that time, there was forced sterilisation of disabled people in order to make 'the best humans in the future'. It has been used to try to justify human rights abuses and despite it being widely known as a horrific thing, so many people still think disabled people should not be allowed to have children. I think people forget that you can become disabled at any point in your life, whether that be from developing a post-viral illness or being in an accident. The most important thing I can think of is 'why are other people concerned about whether we have children?'. Why does it matter to them? Whether disabled people can't have children is their personal circumstances and their medical information should not be shared with us unless the person wants to. Nobody should be concerned about whether disabled people reproduce unless you are that person.


It's obvious when someone has a disability
So many people have what we call invisible disabilities which are conditions that aren't apparent to the naked eye. Say for example you see a broken leg, you know that person has a temporary physical disability. If someone has joint pain, you often cannot see it, therefore it's 'invisible'. This is also apparent for mental health conditions and for Neurodiversity too.


Wheelchairs are the only mobility aid needed
Nope. Here are some examples of mobility/accessibility aids: wheelchair, crutches, walking stick, orthotics, walker/rollator, modified eating utensils, modified writing utensils, grabbers, grab rails, doorknob adaptors, modified sleeping surfaces, tetrapods/tripods, hearing aids, visual aids, braille menus, assistive computer technology, compression stockings, artificial limbs, feeding tubes, catheters, adaptive kitchen technology like kettles and tin openers, shower stools, hoists, toilet frames, bed levers, assistance dogs, electric mobility scooters, lifts, char lifts, eye-tracking systems, plastic straws, reminder systems, bed/chair tables, clothing aids, canes, keyboards, splints, braces and supports, ramps, fidget toys, automatic doors, and so much more.

We all have a blue badge 
The Blue Badge enables disabled passengers and drivers to park as close to their destination as physically possible. It costs up to £10 in England, £20 in Scotland and is free in Wales. They usually last around 3 years and you have to reapply for it before it expires. On the application I would check 'I have a permanent disability or condition that isn't expected to improve for at least 3 years'. This is where some of the problems lie, as some medical professionals have the viewpoint that if you exercise and lose weight you can manage conditions well which is not the case at all. If the medical professional doesn't really know about your conditions at all, it can be difficult to prove otherwise. When applying you can use supporting evidence, which is often a letter from a professional and PIP award. For me, I will have to contact my GP to ask for a letter and plead for them to say I won't 'get better' or improve, and I also I don't have PIP right now. When it comes down to having a Blue Badge, you have access problems gaining it, a financial cost, and the need to prove your disability. It isn't always easy.


We all claim Personal Independence Payments (PIP)
Like above, a lot of us don't claim PIP. Sometimes because the access isn't there in the first place to aid in filling out the forms and going to the assessment. Sometimes this is because the mental stress of filling them out and being assessed is way too much. Other times it may be because we don't have enough evidence despite living daily with our disabilities. Since the Government switched from DLA to PIP it has become so hard for disabled people to claim welfare payments. Often people have to go to tribunal to appeal the decision before they're awarded. Think about how much time, effort, mental energy, and sometimes money would go into that. I still haven't applied as I've been waiting for more diagnoses to provide as evidence. It's really tough, and you can be awarded as little as £20-something per week to live on, which is almost nothing.


It's okay to pray for us
Without permission from the disabled person, I don't think it's ever okay to pray for us. For me, it's a hard no. I don't belong to a religion and identify as a Humanist which means that I think about ethical decision-making and science. Before this, I didn't ever personally identify as belonging to a religion when I have been able to think for myself. Aside from this, are you praying that your God will fix us? Because the whole religion and disability topic is complex in itself. The Mighty have spoken about this before, as even strangers sometimes approach disabled people to pray for them. Are they trying to pray it away? People may refuse and the religious person will still try and pray for them. Or, they may refuse, they go back home and they pray for them there. Consent in every context should be taken seriously. The only people who have ever offered to pray for me have been Christians/Catholics so I can only really offer that side of the story but it feels 'off' to me. You don't see us as people, you see us as broken beings who need a miracle to make us into a proper person.


You can be too young to have disabilities
You can be born with disabilities, or become disabled as a child, teenager, or young adult, just like you could as an adult or elderly person. This myth is really harmful, as it encourages people not to believe what disabled people are saying if they're of a certain age or they look younger. The thing that gets me most is when older people believe this myth. There are mostly two categories of people who stare at me when I'm in my wheelchair; kids who are just curious, confused, or otherwise, and elderly people. The people who have glared at me most are the latter and I think it's because there is this false assumption that if you're not over a certain age you should be up and exercising, not wheeling around or using mobility aids. In the education system and in the media there should be way more education around disabilities to prevent these assumptions from happening. I've been teaching my 9-year-old sister about disabilities and ableism and from what she's said, she is more respectful and eager to help disabled people now that she is free from certain assumptions.


Disabled people can't be independent
This comes across to me as an uneducated and rude assumption, to be honest. Why can't they be independent? Why does it matter to you if we aren't independent? There are plenty of independent disabled people and plenty who need care. I'm not sure why this matters. Sometimes when out people will talk to the person who is with the disabled person, as if we can't talk for ourselves. This is awful and patronising. We are our own our person and should be treated the same as everyone else.


Disabled people should all be trying out for the Paralympics
I don't understand where this comes from. A lot of people have one of two mentalities; the first that we are all 'mega' disabled and have carers and loads of welfare money and we cannot do anything for ourselves, or, that we could be amazing Paralympic athletes and we just need to put our minds to it. What? So many people with disabilities live in unbearable pain, or they require access aids to help them do daily tasks. Let's maybe not encourage people to be athletes unless they express interest in it.


We all have carers or family that look after us
Absolutely not. Some people have neither, some people have one or both. I am lucky that my partner is my carer, but that is only because he cares for me outside of work. During his working hours, I am left alone and it is often difficult for me. Should my condition get worse we will have to look for a carer but we cannot afford one. Care in the UK is underfunded, unsupportive, and frankly not good enough. The Government does not care about disabilities (source: see their voting history). I think with the family route, some people are single and they are estranged from their families, or their close members have passed away. I would be super wary of asking people what their care situation was like unless you were able to offer a viable solution for them.


We refuse to get a job and use disabilities as an excuse
4.4 million disabled people are in work, which out of 14.1 million disabled people is a good chunk of people, especially considering you have children, retirement-age people and people with severe disabilities that prevent them from working are in this number. Many people do work with their disabilities as the statistics above show, but there are many barriers that disabled people face. Scope outlined that if 1 million more disabled people were in the workplace and supported there too, the economy would fact a boost of £45 million. A lot of disabled people want a job, but can't access jobs, or a discriminated against in job interviews. Fun fact, you don't have to disclose your disability to anyone. But facing support is a difficulty. Ways in which the workplace can support disabled people may be allowing remote work, providing lifts and disabled toilets, providing disabled parking bays, modifying hours, software licenses, and much more. Many employers think providing access is too hard, or they're worried they'll get it wrong. According to Huffington Post, the reasonable adjustment could cost just £30. The UK Government's Access to Work can even help employers cover these costs. For some, it's not the job itself but the transport. For me, with reasonable adjustments, I could work an office job providing I had plenty of smaller breaks and other things, but I cannot get to a job. I don't have a car and will not be able to drive now (see my POTS post here) so I would have to rely on public transport. Taxis can be an issue with bringing mobility aids, buses only have one disabled bay and often prove difficult when standing for a bus. Trains are tricky as often if you're using a wheelchair you have to book access help over 24 hours in advance which is ludicrous and sometimes the people don't even turn up to help you onto the train. Often on trains, those disabled bays are filled with bicycles and suitcases too. I can't cycle due to the pain it puts me in, I learned the hard way when I went to Center Parcs. Obviously, if I'm not allowed a driving license I can't use a motorcycle, not that I could afford it anyway. Walking a long distance (we're talking over 5 minutes) is a no-go. So where do we stand? For me, freelance work and working on this blog is the only option I have left.


Businesses don't need to provide access to disabled people
1 in 5 people have a disability, that's 20% of your potential customer base alienated if you refuse to provide access. According to The Ramp People, if access was provided it could bring in £249 billion a year. The Equality Act 2010 should be reformed to make more businesses provide accessibility but right now it's down to the business themselves. Access can be in these forms: Alternative menus including large font, different coloured paper, and braille, ramps up to doors, automatic button doors, disabled toilets, changing spaces toilets, no flashing lights or strobe lighting, a quiet room for sensory purposes, moveable chairs to allow wheelchairs to take their space, access listed on your website/Google Maps, lifts, wider stairs, handrails, multiple disabled parking bays, employees trained in basic British Sign Language, space wide enough for wheelchairs to manoeuvre, no chairs/tables/signs blocking the pavement outside, dropped curbs, adequate signs, low background music, and accessible checkout desks and reception areas. According to Purple, businesses miss out on £2bn every month if disabled people cannot access their services or shop. 


Whatever the medical professional has said is always right and we can't know more about our conditions
If you've not seen the meme 'Don't confuse your Google search with my 6-year degree and medical school' then you may not have seen the response from the disability/chronic illness community. The response is 'Don't confuse the one-hour lecture you had on my condition with my X years of living with it'. It's true though. I have had to explain my hEDS condition to almost every medical professional I've had. The only person who knew about it was my Cardiologist. Even with POTS, I just said 'dysautonomia' to my Neurologist because so many people have no idea about these conditions. Obviously, there are exceptions here; there are specialists in those conditions, some professionals have the conditions themselves or some are keen on learning more about conditions and will know a lot about them. Sometimes you will have medical professionals who don't know about your condition but will read up on it and learn more before your next appointment. But the whole 'don't Google anything' mentality is damaging and dangerous. How many people will have symptoms, search about them and realise it's more urgent than they thought and seek medical treatment that can save their lives? My bet is more than you may think. I have Googled the whole way through seeking multiple diagnoses because I had no idea what I might have been facing. I had joint pain and the only thing I knew of was Arthritis, which from tests I do not have because I don't have inflammation of the joints. I knew from my first misdiagnosis that it wasn't as simple as 'you're bendy', Googled it, researched it and went back with more knowledge, and advocated for better care, and it completely paid off.


You don't really become disabled later on in life
Often we are asked "were you born like that" which 1. you shouldn't be asking that, if you're intrigued about someone's disability there are far better ways to start a conversation, and 2. why can't you ask 'do you need any help' or 'how are you getting on', not questioning our disability. This is a multi-part question regardless. A lot of elderly people become less mobile and would class themselves as disabled. There are plenty of instances of people either being born with their disability or becoming disabled at any point in their lives. Genes can kick in with things like puberty or menopause, accidents happen, you can be born with a genetic condition that gets worse as you get older, things like viruses can leave you with disabilities. Also, mental health conditions and Neurodivergent conditions like Autism, ADHD, etc are all classed as disabilities if it affects your daily life. You may not know you have one of these until you seek medical help. Anyone can become disabled.


We're brave for living with our disabilities
This one is right in the 'inspiration porn' area. The reason disabled people don't like it when they say they're 'inspired' by us is because it's often used when we're just doing our daily tasks. Non-disabled's expectations for us are nearly touching the floor they're that low, so if we do anything independently it's often mentioned about us being brave. Stella Young said in 2012 "what did they inspire me to do?" and I think that's a great quote. If we put our shoes on ourselves, are you now inspired to put yours on yourself? No? Exactly. It's so patronising.


It's fine to use wheelchair-bound
This ableist language is not okay for a few reasons. The first is that for those who need a wheelchair, it's an extension of the legs themselves. Non-disabled or abled people can get around using their legs, so for us our wheelchair is the equivalent. That's why it isn't okay to push us without asking or to store your bags on our wheelchair without asking permission. Also, why are we 'bound' to one? Many wheelchair users are ambulatory wheelchair users anyway but many people who are not will transfer to a sofa, a bed, a chair. They do not stay in their wheelchair 24 hours a day.


Disabled toilets are for wheelchair users only
This is a common misconception. Some disabled toilets have now changed their imagery to include things like walking sticks and invisible disabilities. If you are genuinely disabled, that toilet is for you. If you're using it to skip a queue or otherwise, that is not for you. But on the topic of wheelchairs, a good percentage of wheelchair users are ambulatory, meaning they can either walk, stand, or take a few steps.


Once you become disabled you are disabled forever
False, conditions like cancer and other life-threatening conditions can be covered within the Equality Act 2010 from diagnosis until you're recovered. You may have a condition that when treated or medicated well, you don't consider yourself disabled anymore. Some conditions are untreatable or incurable, however.


We should use nicer language, like 'differently-abled' instead

I saw an article on Medium about why we shouldn't be scared of the word disabled and substitutes just should not be used and I completely agree. Creating other labels is an attempt by some to make it 'nicer' for us but it actually does the opposite. Other labels include 'special', 'challenged', 'handicapable', 
If someone were to call me by one of these disability euphemisms, I would ask them what my other abilities are, or am I special like a magical being? Because these words are just terms for 'different' or 'not normal'. Disabled is the appropriate word to use. The euphemisms are infantilising and if they're used with children it will be frustrating for them to have to switch labels when they turn into a teen/adult. Disability rights activist Lawrence Carter-Long created the hashtag #SayTheWord to advocate for everyone using the word disabled instead of euphemisms. When it comes to using language around disabilities, the National Center on Disability and Journalism has a create dictionary online that you can use to see what is appropriate, although it does advocate for person-first language completely so take it with a grain of salt. The NHS has a language guide here too.


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